Women have been plagued by this question for years. This a very serious decision for women of childbearing years. Especially if they are married and their biological clock is ticking.
If you decide to go on with your career and then have a child there is a possibility that when you get back to work you could be putting yourself on the slow track for advancement at work. Your employer might not think you are up to the challenge of more responsibility with a new baby at home. Let's not even talk about the anxiety you experience when you return back to work and have to leave your baby (that is my next blog).
If you decide to have your children first you may have a problem getting a job when you are ready to go to work. Your perspective employer is going to want to know what you have been doing for the past 10 years. Being a stay at home mom is a serious job that you cannot put a dollar amount on. Especially if you really take care of your kids and your household and are not watching soap operas all day long.
Being a stay at home mom definitely has skills that you can transfer to the work force. For example you have to have time management skills in order to do all your chores like go to the supermarket, cleaners, etc and be at school on time to pick up junior.
I was very fortunate to have a husband that is hands on. He changed his work schedule to take care of the kids until they were 2 years old. At that point we felt more comfortable with them going to daycare. More and more men are taking on the task of being the caregiver while their wife goes back to work. I was very thankful for this option. I still missed the kids but at least I knew they were in good hands.
I would like to hear your opinion on this subject. Please post a comment.
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I totally agree with you. It's nice to have a Dad or family member that is hands on. The probelm is that you can't trust anybody these days to care for your kids nowadays people are crazier than ever. People use to watch out for your kids. Now you have Teachers sleeping with children and etc. I would have love to have more children, but just as you stated family oriented employers, and great childcare providers are scarce. I should of married a millionaire then I wouldn't really care one way or the other. My Company is great as far as being family oriented. My youngest son suffers with bouts of asthma and I'm always the one staying homew ith him because my husbands job is not as lenient but at the end of the day I'm using up my sick days so when I 'm sick guess what? I love my job and what I do, but I would choose motherhood in a heartbeat if I could afford to stay home. There is nothing better than getting up and spending a day with your children, from the breakfast cooking, to the getting them off to school, then the return of them when they come home from school, begins the Homework, dinner, talking about the day events,and the list goes on. Motherhood is MGMT career, and most employers should see that. Mothers rule we multitask, supervise, organize, advise,strategize,memorize,probelm solve,priortize and then some 24/7 for 365 days for 18 years or more. Now tell me that ain't MANAGEMENT or CEO credentials!
Thai
You rhyming like Jesse Jackson LOL. Put you hit the nail right ont he head. Being a stay at home parent is very hard job and I do not think parents are appreciated for the task they accomplish. The United States is way behind when it come to parents rights.
Employers need to understand that our job is raising the next generation. These kids are going to be taking of us when we are senior citizens. We need to make sure these are well educated and have morals that we can be proud of.
Last yesterday in the newspaper I read that a 9 year old boy in New Jersey killed an 11 month old little boy at a daycare center while the caregiver was in another room. What is this world coming to???? If that 11 month baby was home with his mother he would be alive today. This is the future we have to look forward to?????
God help us all.
I am not written in a my blog for several months. I do apologize. The is a hot topic I was hoping to have more correspondence by now. There are alot of working mothers out there. I need to hear your opinions ladies. Talk to me.
I know my blog is more than a year old but I thought I would have gotten more feedback about careers vs motherhood. Let me know what is on your mind ladies.
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